The Lord is Close to the Brokenhearted and Saves Those who are Crushed in Spirit
Webster's dictionary defines breach as: a “a broken, ruptured, or torn condition or area, b: a gap (as in a wall) made by battering, c: a break in accustomed friendly relations b: a temporary gap in continuity”.
Most of the heartache in family situations comes from broken relationships. And most broken relationships stem from selfishness. Author Francis Frangipane call it "Satan's finest hour”. When hearts are wounded, when covenants are broken, when anguish fills the home...Satan is pleased. We need to come to these situations in the opposite spirit, the Spirit of Christ-the spirit of unity, humility and kindness.
"A repairer of the breach is one who counsels and restores family relationships through love and patience. They are the ones who represent Christ and die to self to show love to the unlovely. Instead of judging, they can pinpoint the broken place, and pray and fast for that situation's cleansing and redemption. They are the ones who follow Jesus' example. Their heart's desire, like His...is to save."
Then you shall call, and the LORD will answer;
you shall cry, and He will say, Here I am.
"If you take away from the midst of you the yoke, the pointing
of the finger, and speaking wickedness, if you pour yourself
out for the hungry and satisfy the desire of the afflicted, then
shall your light rise in the darkness and your gloom be as the
And the LORD will guide you continually, and satisfy your desire with good things, and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters fail not.
And your ancient ruins shall be rebuilt; you shall raise up the foundations of many generations;you shall be called the repairer of the breach, the restorer of streets to dwell in.
This beloved scripture is wisdom for many relationships and sit-uations, but we will apply it to the family. Isaiah advises, in all our our family dealings:
"to put away the yoke"-the burden of sin,
"the pointing of the finger"- gossiping, accusing one another,
and begin to "pour yourself out"-in prayer, fastings, and love.
Then, through the power of Christ, your family will be lead out of darkness, and into the Light of the Kingdom of the Son, Jesus Christ. The Lord will guide you in what to say, He will strengthen your faith, and you will be a Christian who will become like Jesus, a "spring of water", a continuing flow of peace and wisdom.
You will be known as the "repairer of the breach", one who worked toward healing family relationships, adding to the blessings of the family for generations to come!
Matthew Henry states in his commentary on Isaiah 58:12
"Thou shalt be called (and it shall be to thy honor) the repairer of the breach, the breach made by the enemy in the wall of a besieged city. Happy are those who make up the breach at which virtue is running out and judgments are breaking in. "
Your priceless task may be to reach out to those who are separated from the family. None of us wants to be broken off from the family unit. One of the Hebrew translations for “restore” is “indeed, bring me back”. What a tender word that is for those who may appear to be hateful and divisive, but in their hearts, truly want to be included back in the family fold.
There are always truths that need to be spoken of, and brought into the light, but let us speak the truth in love. If you are intent in your heart to be a peacemaker in your family, you can be assured that you will be blessed, and all of heaven is behind you!
Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
Peacemaking is a glorious and vital instrument of unity, and there is eternal value in unity, for it impacts generations of your family. How pleasant it is for brethren when there is unity, God commands a blessing!! Your family will be anointed for God's purposes, and blessed for generations!
Psalm 133 states, God says,
Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!
A Godly couple who are members of a large and gifted Christian family, wrote a “repairing of the breach” letter to their siblings after many years of painful estrangement.
Some excerpts follow:
“This is the right time for family reconciliation for a number of reasons. We've tried lots of things to bring family forgiveness and unity in the past. But there is still an estrangement, awkwardness, or distance between some in the family that is uncomfortable and at times ungodly. We want to change that inasmuch as it lies within us and do it with everyone who also feels it."
"The view of our relationship since___has been based on truths laid out in Matthew 18:15-17. We are now going to put hate all behind us and offer our unconditional forgiveness (charizomai) for all the offenses real or perceived in the past. We no longer expect or ask for any apologies, repentance, restitution, or even a reaction. None of us, we are sure, would condone all the actions, hurts, or attitudes by any of us that led to our family tragedy. For whatever role we played in offending either of you, we apologize and ask for your forgiveness. We choose now to put it behind us. All of it."
"We will close with a prayer offered daily for healing of all relationships. That's all we ask for in return. God said all this much better than we can in Romans 14:17-19.
'For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men. Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.'"
"Righteousness, peace and joy. May you have them in abundance.”
(used with permission)
Only this couple knows what they had to give up in the way of hurts, resentments and buried wounds. They CHOSE, BY WILL, to obey God.
Obedience brings great rewards. I can remember when I first became a Christian and I heard people say, "God spoke to me ", or "I could feel the presence of the Holy Spirit, or, "I saw an angel", or "He answered my prayers"! Their stories gave me a hunger to have an intimate relationship with the Lord. I learned through experience that God rewards obedience. Obedience opens the door for you to receive every good thing that God bestows on His children...to experience His presence, to walk in fellowship with the Creator of the world, and to enjoy and receive His love and protection!
Our beloved Saviour, with the anguish of the cross laying before Him spoke these words to His disciples as they sat at table:
"The person who has my commands and keeps them is the one who really loves me; and whoever really loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and reveal myself to him. [I will let myself be clearly seen by him and make myself real to him.] John 14:21
What unspeakable joy is this! He will personally reveal Himself to you!
The following scripture completely transformed my attitude and actions concerning family relationships. I couldn't make excuses for my anger or pride or selfishness any more. There it was...very clearly stated in God's word!
Since God chose you to be the holy people whom he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. You must make allowance for each other's faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. And the most important piece of clothing you must wear is love. Love is what binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are all called to live in peace. And always be thankful.
If you follow these instructions, and obey Him by walking in obedience, you and your family will be walking toward peace and harmony.
This wonderful result of family harmony takes work, and it doesn't happen overnight. It is a process. It only takes one person to begin the sanctification and blessing for the entire family.
Do you want to be that person?
Selah. (Think about that!)
Let's pray together...
Dear Heavenly Father,
You have shown us in Your Word that You desire for us to be instru-ments of peace, not carriers of strife or anger. Give us grace to walk with our family in the deep, painful waters of broken relationships.
May we, as a family, first turn toward You and Your Word to resolve our difficulties and heal the breaches. May the Holy Spirit come among us and give each of us the Wisdom of Christ Jesus, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.
In crisis or conflict, may truths be revealed, may justice come forth, and may comfort and counsel arise, that You might be glorified, even in our sorrows.
Loving Father, raise up wise peacemakers, counselors, and repairers of the breach in our family!
We pray in the name of Jesus, the Name above every name.
(Note: If you need indepth answers for a particular family situation,
visit focusonthefamily.org., for information and wise counsel.)